What is the purpose of my life?
It is the question that almost every human being carries with him, whether asked directly or hidden beneath all the other important questions: Am I in the right career? Is this the correct relationship? Is this the life I’m supposed to live?
We all know when we are out of alignment.
For some, it manifests itself as dissatisfaction with work. For others, a concern that no external change seems to resolve. A life that seems right on paper but not entirely feel good.
When the Purpose is not lived, there is a subtle feeling of being slightly out of sync.
Sometimes something clicks and it may seem like the question has finally been resolved. But after a while, it comes back in a slightly different form.
The assumption, in most cases, is that the answer has not yet been found.
That something is still missing, something that must be identified, clarified, discovered…
…and that with enough effort, exploration, or the right choice, it will eventually reveal itself.
And so the search continues, becoming more refined, more intentional, more sophisticated.
However, the problem is rarely a lack of trying. It’s a misunderstanding about where to look and why.
While each story is different, the struggle for purpose follows general underlying patterns.
After working with thousands of students at Astro Butterfly School over the last decade, we have identified 3 main reasons why people strive with purpose:
Reason #1: Looking for purpose in the wrong places
When most people ask “What is my purpose?” – they associate it with something they do – with what they need achievewith career, vocationeither achievements.
Purpose translates into something external, like a path that can be chosen.
So the question is: Which Is the path correct?
And from there we began to look around us: who is successful? Who seems accomplished? What paths seem to work? What pays better? Who has the best Instagram vacations and what do they do?
“They seem to know what they’re doing; I’ll give it a try.”
The vicious circle is that if someone is not successful by worldly standards, that becomes other sign that they have not yet found their Purpose and that they need keep looking.
If they feel dissatisfied in their careers, or have a vague sense that there is more “out there,” this becomes “proof” that their TRUE The purpose is waiting for you… somewhere else.
And, paradoxically, the same people who serve as role models (people who appear extremely successful by external standards) often feel that they are not living their Purpose either. But that’s reason number 3.
In astrology, if someone wants to understand their purpose or direction, the instinct is usually to look at their Midheaven.
The Midheaven is the highest point of the chart, it is associated with vocation, visibility and the direction we are moving towards, so that is where we have to look for a purpose… right?
Mistaken.
Purpose and individualization: becoming who you really are
Carl Jung understood this. He believed that the deepest task of human life is not achievement, not adaptation, not finding the right role, but becoming who you really are.
he called him individuation – and he was clear that this process begins from the inside, not from the outside.
The birth chart does not begin with the Midheaven, which is precisely why we should not seek a purpose in a place that aims to reflect the culmination of a process, not its origin.
Searching for a purpose there is like trying to read the last chapter of a story you haven’t experienced yet.
Astrology can be very useful here, but only when used in the correct way.
Jung himself worked with astrological charts in his practice and discovered that astrology revealed dimensions of the psyche that he could not access through other means.
Astrology does something that no other system achieves: it connects different parts of our psyche in a coherent way, helping us understand where to lookand giving structure to what would otherwise remain fragments of meaning.
Confusing purpose with career and external direction
The problem with purpose is not a lack of options or a lack of effort, but the externalization of a process that can only unfold internally.
When we look outside for the “right” career, or the next opportunity, we hand the steering wheel to the wrong driver.
At best, it leads to lives and careers that seem right… but don’t feel right.
At worst, it becomes paralyzing, because part of us tries to convince ourselves that this is the way to go, while another part – more honest and more connected – knows that it is not.
And when these parts are in conflict, both the inside (how you feel) and the outside (how you look) begin to suffer.
Confusing Purpose with career and external direction is one of the 3 core patterns we have identified in people who fight with a purpose.
He 2 others Dig deeper: into the psychology of why we remain attached to the pursuit itself and why even people who have built successful lives can feel fundamentally misaligned with what they have created.
You can learn more about these top 3 reasons in the webinar below:
These patterns point to a development sequence – which, when understood, reveals why Purpose has been so elusive and what is really needed to move forward.
Purpose is NOT a destination, nor something that is at the right professional crossroads. It is not something that is suddenly “revealed” to us at the end of a long search, with the right spiritual technique or the perfect moment of clarity.
Purpose is a journey and it has stages. If you skip one, you’ll be back to the starting point. Hurry through one and life will find a way to remind you, often not in a very gentle way.
So how do we know the difference between ourselves and others?
there is one thing that reveals whether we are living our Purpose or simply a rehearsed version of it.
That is Service.
Service is NOT a career in the same way Purpose is not a career, although both can see ourselves reflected in our career or other areas of our life.
Service speaks to a deeper alignment between who we are and the world in which we live. Status, achievement, success: that is not what Service is about, although Service, when authentic, brings achievement and success.
The entire journey from Purpose to Service consists of 6 stages that complement each other.. Each stage corresponds to a particular dimension of your psyche and is assigned to specific elements of your birth chart.
These stages cannot be omitted or replaced; When they are, we end up in one of the 3 patterns described at the beginning of this email.
When Purpose is developed through this 6 step sequencethere is a deep sense of meaning: a coherence between who you are and how you live.
PURPOSE + SERVICE is an 8 week program where we guide you at every stage of the process. The program starts on April 14, 2026:
–> You can learn more about this 6-step process at this link –> PURPOSE + SERVICE
